In this post I expose three marriage practices that do not sync in any imaginable way with values of human dignity, let alone societal values. Here are the 3 ugly marriage traditions worthy the chop from being practiced.
1. Chithyola Imvi or Chithyola Msana
It is Chithyola Imvi when a father or grandfather sleeps with his daughters or granddaughters, respectively.
Usually, it a practice done by isolated individuals in the society, most members are appalled by it as it is a form of incest. It is said, individuals who tend to do this practice, perform it as a ritual either for witchcraft or charms to upscale their exploits—farming, business etcetera.
2. Marriage by proxy
This is a custom whereby elders request brother (s) to a man — who has left his wife at home, in order to search for greener pasture in a foreign country — to take good care of their sister–in–law; in this manner, these caretakers are at liberty to make love to their sister – in law.
In extreme cases, the father-in-law may also act as a husband to the daughter-in -law on behalf of his son. Because most of the time, the girls are immature, naïve, and just having been placed in a new surrounding, they tend to be helpless and fail to say no to the abuse. What’s more heart-racking is that girls are exposed to a high risk of contracting STIs.
3. Chimwanamayi — Wife swapping
Yes, you’re right as the name suggests — very close men exchange their wives for a short period of time.
Men talk about their wishes to swap wives, then upon agreeing, they entice their respective spouses. They strike a date, and specific time; usually under the cover of night, they go and sleep with their friend’s mate.
Looking at these three practices, one that they expose people to contracting STIs including HIV in the event that one is affected. Away from, they fall short, disgracefully so, of human dignity.
Come on, what’s you’re take? Would you love to see these practices promoted?
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